For My Boys

Over the past few weeks, many lessons have been taught in my home. So as graduation approaches and the potential for one moving out, I question – have I taught my boys enough? Have I instilled good values in them? Have I taught them to be amazing adults – smart, kind and respectful adults? This was my job as their parent.

After much thought, here are most of the things I want my boys to remember.

  • Hold the door open for people.
  • Don’t trust everyone. Don’t not trust anyone.
  • Be light in your heart and steady on your feet.
  • Think before you act.
  • Get mad, but don’t get even. Be the bigger person.
  • Admit your mistakes and own up to them. And when you make one, learn from it. No one is perfect.
  • Share.
  • Attitude is everything. Pick a good one.
  • Use your manners – please, thank you, and excuse me every day.
  • Don’t take advantage of the kindness of other.
  • Tell people when you are proud of them.
  • Learn to make people laugh without making anyone cry.
  • Stand up to bullies by being smart and kind.
  • Learn tact.
  • Play to win, but play fair.
  • When you lose, you learn.
  • Show your loved ones your support, even if what they are excited about isn’t what you are excited about.
  • Give credit where credit is due.
  • Patience and practice will help you do all the hard things you want to conquer.
  • Don’t park in a handicapped spot unless you are handicapped.
  • Pick up what you saw fall, even if you didn’t drop it.
  • Take chances that won’t hurt yourself or others.
  • Remember birthdays – especially your mamas.
  • Eat your vegetables.
  • Take care of yourself – showers, hair cuts, trimmed nails, and shave.
  • Ask people how they are doing.
  • Learn what basic tools do.
  • Smile and make eye contact.
  • Put your phone down and talk to people.
  • Make your bed.
  • Make lists and get things done.
  • If you borrow something, return it.
  • Learn to give people grace. You never know what someone else is going through.
  • If you value something, take care of it.
  • Clean up after yourself. Your mama may have done it for you, but it is not your girlfriend or wife’s responsibility.
  • Remember to floss.
  • Be grateful for what you have.
  • The kitchen is not just for girls. Learn to cook (and clean up).
  • Use your table manners. Phone down. Napkin in lap.
  • Wash your hands.
  • If you love someone, tell them. But also know who has trouble saying “I love you” and let them show you instead.
  • No one has it all figured out.
  • You can’t control everything, You have to let some things go and let life happen.
  • To love is to vulnerable, let your guard down.
  • Good or bad, you learn from everybody.
  • Embrace all of your emotions. Don’t ignore them. Don’t mask them. Embrace them.
  • Traveling alone is better than traveling with bad company.
  • Unlearning is just as important as learning.
  • You don’t have to learn everything the hard way.
  • One day you will need to be forgiven so learn to forgive others.
  • Never let your inner child die. Always remember to have fun.
  • Be so busy improving your life you don’t have time to criticize others.
  • Everyone you love will eventually die. Spend time with the people you love.
  • No one is a mind reader. Voice how you feel.
  • Listen to understand, not to respond.
  • You can’t pour from an empty cup. Take care of yourself first.
  • The best revenge is getting yourself to a place where you no longer care about revenge.
  • Always look for the magic.
  • There is always something to be thankful for.
  • When life throws you a curve ball, hit it over the fence.
  • Make good choices. Be a leader.
  • Be the kind of person your mama always knew you could be.

Teaching our children is our biggest responsibility – one I take very seriously. I will never stop teaching my children for I was blessed with the wonderful opportunity to be their mama, now and always.

“At the end of the day, the most overwhelming key to a child’s success is the positive involvement of parents.” Jane D. Hull

What lessons are you teaching your children?

xoxo, Jane Anne


Leave a Reply